“I believe one of the most rebellious and radical things we can do in today’s modern world is feel. In feeling, we reclaim our power—and in connection, we come home to ourselves. If that’s an act of rebellion, so be it. “

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In a world that teaches us to disconnect—to shut down, to stay small, to protect ourselves—

I believe in the power of acceptance, empathy, compassion, and embodied presence. These aren’t just ideas.

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Connection to ourselves.

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Connection to Each Other

They aren’t just radical actions. They are the path to healing.

We live in a culture that teaches us to prioritize performance over presence, intellect over emotion, independence over intimacy. And look around- where has it gotten us? Many of us were never shown how to feel our feelings, much less share them with another. Our upbringing, religion, families, and our trauma shaped us. But those things don’t have to define us.

We can learn how to come home to ourselves. We can learn how and expand to build resiliency and to open instead of shut down

When we feel safe in our bodies, when we experience pleasure of any kind- you taste the best ice cream you’ve ever had, feel the fall breeze and smell the crisp leaves, hear you favorite song- when we’re in a state of relaxation and trust, we are naturally able to attune to others. That’s what intimacy and connection is all about.

You’ve felt it before—the way your body tightens in conflict, the way fear or attachment wounds can shut you down when a partner gets angry. That isn’t weakness. That’s protection. But in that state, it's nearly impossible to hear, to empathize, to connect.

Now imagine being in a state of embodied pleasure- anything that feels good to you. Your nervous system is calm. You feel safe, open, real. That is the state where connection flows. That’s the doorway to intimacy.

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Healing doesn’t come through analyzing everything that’s wrong with us—it comes from learning how to feel again. It comes from remembering that we are worthy of love, just as we are.

When someone believes in us—sees our light, celebrates our inner power—we rise. We become more than we ever thought we could be.

That’s why I became a somatic practitioner in Kansas City and why I use pleasure as a vehicle to healing. Whether you are looking for help healing trauma, feeling intimacy, or enjoying sex. That’s why I do this work- because I believe in people.

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I believe in you.

We live in a time where disconnection is the norm.

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But we don’t have to live that way. I imagine a world where more of us are empowered to connect, attune, express, and love with authenticity. That’s the world I believe in. That’s the world I work to build every day—with my clients, with my community, with everyone I meet. It wasn’t always this way for me either.

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I fall in love every day—at the grocery store, in line at the post office, in a coaching session—does that sound weird? Of course it does but there are many different ways to love and being in love feels a whole lot better than the other options. Imagine being able to chose how you show up in your life, in Kansas City or anywhere else on the globe.

I know what changes when someone is shown kindness, when they’re met with genuine presence. And I want you to know: you matter. Your feelings are valid. Your capacity for intimacy and love is greater than you’ve been led to believe.

Coaching is how I bring this mission to life.

Through somatic-based sex coaching, intimacy work, and relationship therapy, I help individuals and couples reconnect to themselves and each other. I teach people how to feel again, how to speak their truth, how to access pleasure as a guide, and how to show up in their relationships with compassion and courage.

If you're in Kansas City—or anywhere in the world—and you’re longing for deeper connection, you’re in the right place.

Let’s explore what becomes possible when you finally feel safe enough to be fully yourself.

Enough about me- I want to hear about you

Heidi Oh is a board certified somatic sexologist and trauma coach based in Kansas City, offering somatic coaching for individuals and couples. Her mission is rooted in empathy, connection, and embodiment—helping people heal through pleasure, presence, and authentic intimacy.