Favorites and Must Haves

A clear glass pump bottle with a white spray nozzle on black satin fabric
Book cover of 'The Imperfects' by Brene Brown, featuring large blue text and orange accents, with subtitles highlighting gifts of imperfection and tools for personal growth.

Books I’ve Read and Recommend

The Gifts of Imperfection -

Brené Brown

Book cover titled 'Come As You Are' by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. with a pink background, featuring a zipper revealing a red interior, and text highlighting it as a New York Times bestseller about transforming your sex life, with a yellow circle noting it is revised and updated.

Come as You Are-

Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

Book cover titled 'Addict America: The Lost Connection' by Dr. Carol Clark, featuring a minimalist design of overlapping circles containing a faint map of the United States in the background.

Addict America The Lost Connection -

Dr. Carol Clark

Book cover with a light blue background, a drawing of a small bird perched on a branch, and Japanese characters at the top. The title reads 'Wabi Sabi' by Beth Kempton, with the subtitle 'Japanese Wisdom for a Perfectly Imperfect Life'.

Wabi Sabi: Japanese Wisdom for a Perfectly Imperfect Life by Beth Kempton

Book cover titled 'Men, Women & Worthiness' by Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, with a blue textured background and subtitle 'The Experience of Shame and the Power of Being Enough'.

Men, Women, and Worthiness: The Experience of Shame and the Power of Being Enough (only available in audio format) - Brené Brown

Book cover titled "How to Do the Work" by Dr. Nicole LePera, a holistic psychologist, with colorful orange, pink, and yellow background.

How to do the Work -

Dr. Nicole LePera

Book cover titled "Coming Together" with a silhouette of two faces close to each other, one purple and one white, against a dark background.

Coming Together -

Danielle Harel, PhD and Celeste Hirschman MA

Book cover titled "I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn't)" by Brené Brown, with the subtitle "Making the Journey from 'What Will People Think?' to 'I Am Enough'."

I Thought it was Just Me but it Isn’t -

Brené Brown

Intimacy Must Haves

Überlube is the superior lube and #1 lube recommended by sex therapists and coaches. Silicone slip, consistency, glide, and staying power 10/10

Pink and white can of Hello Cake brand lubricant

Tush Cush anal lube is a thick water and silicone based jelly that provides the cushion you want for lots of back door play. Plays well with adult toys and condoms. Brought to you by Hello Cake

A bottle of Love Wellness pH Balanced Cleanser with a light purple label and white cap, positioned against a light purple background.

Just Good Stuff

Vaginal microbiome is valuable and something worth protecting. It’s what keeps the vagina free of bacteria that can cause infection. The balance of yeast and healthy bacteria is essential to juiciness and comfort.

Any soap but especially those with scents, can cause irritation, dry out the mucosa and throw off the pH of the microbiome. Soaps are alkaline, the vag is acidic- don’t use soap! This is by far my favorite cleanser

A yellow bottle of CBD gummies with colorful illustrations and a label indicating 320 mg CBD content.

The Butters is a small-batch queer and black owned company that specializes in lubes and other personal care products. This is he best oil for aches and pains I’ve ever used! And this and all The Butters products are VEGAN.

Relax deeper with this silky, CBD-infused massage and body oil. Made with Organic Hemp Derived CBD and rich botanical oils, it hydrates skin, eases soreness, and melts stress—fast-absorbing, never greasy.