Your nervous system is like the control center for how you experience the world. It decides whether your body feels safe, stressed, shut down, or ready to connect. When your nervous system has been through trauma, chronic stress, or overwhelm, it can get stuck in old survival patterns — like fight, flight, freeze, or fawn — even when you’re no longer in danger.

Somatic and nervous system regulation work isn’t about “fixing” you; it’s about teaching your system new options. Through gentle awareness and real-time practices, your body learns how to return to safety and presence. When that happens, everything else starts to shift — your relationships, emotions, health, and your ability to experience pleasure and joy.

A Sex and Relationship Coach helps you deepen your connection with yourself and your partner(s) by exploring intimacy, communication, and vulnerability. With me, Heidi Oh, it's all about diving into the messy, gooey stuff (yes, we all have it!). I guide you in learning how to feel your emotions, communicate them confidently, and strengthen the bond with yourself and your partner. We'll work together to create a space where desire can thrive, and intimacy feels safe and exciting again!

Yes — this work is designed for exactly that. Trauma, PTSD, and C-PTSD aren’t just “mental health” experiences; they live in the body. Your nervous system remembers even when your mind wants to move on. That’s why traditional talk therapy sometimes only gets part of the way.

In our work together, we focus on regulating your nervous system, not forcing your story. That means we move slowly, gently, and at a pace your system can handle. You don’t have to rehash painful memories for healing to begin. Instead, we work with the sensations and patterns that show up in your body right now. Over time, your system learns that it’s safe to settle, connect, and breathe again.

Every session begins with slowing down and listening to your body. That might mean tracking your breath, noticing tension, or tuning in to subtle sensations you may have been ignoring. I also observe your nervous system patterns through your breath, micro-expressions, and body language — the little things that tell us how your system is operating.

From there, I introduce grounding, regulation, or co-regulation practices. Sometimes that looks like breathing together, guiding gentle movement, or using consensual, non-sexual touch to help your system find safety. We work in real time, so your nervous system learns by experiencing, not just thinking about it. Think of it as building muscle memory — only for emotional and physiological safety.

Nope! As a coach, I don’t dive into diagnosing or healing past trauma in the way therapy does. Instead, I focus on your current goals and future desires. Coaching with me is more about learning skills, practicing new ways to connect, and feeling your way through your emotions (which can get delightfully messy). Think of me as your guide to more fun, ease, and exploration in your relationship and sex life.

No — and for many people, that’s the most relieving part of this work. You don’t have to relive or retell painful experiences for your body to heal. Your nervous system already carries the imprint of what you’ve been through, and that’s where we begin.

By focusing on your body’s present sensations, we can help your system process and integrate old wounds without retraumatization. You’re always in charge of how much or how little you share. Healing isn’t about pushing; it’s about creating enough safety for your system to do what it’s designed to do — release, regulate, and reconnect.

Yes — if and when you want to. Nervous system regulation is the foundation of everything I do, and intimacy work is one way that foundation can deepen. Because I’m a certified somatic sexologist, I can support you in exploring intimacy, sexual healing, pleasure, and desire in a safe, shame-free way.

For some clients, trauma work naturally leads to exploring connection and pleasure. For others, sex and intimacy aren’t part of the conversation at all — and that’s perfectly fine. This work meets you where you are. If intimacy and sexual wellness are part of your healing path, we can go there together with clarity, consent, and care.