“I’m Not Your Echo Chamber”

Real Connection Starts With Honest, Compassionate Truth

Let’s just get this out in the open: I’m not here to coddle you.

If you’re looking for someone to nod along, tell you you’re right, and validate your every choice no matter how it’s landing with others—keep walking. That’s not my job.

But if you’re looking for someone who will hold up a mirror—with love—and tell you what no one else is saying… welcome. You’ve found your person.

You already have enough people in your life—friends, family, coworkers—who, for whatever reason, aren’t telling you the full truth. They’re trying to keep the peace, protect your feelings, or maybe they just don’t have the tools to be fully honest with you. So they smile, nod, and you’re left wondering why things keep falling apart, why conversations go sideways, or why you feel so misunderstood.

Let me be clear: I’m not here to shame you. Ever. I don’t believe in “right” or “wrong” feelings. I’m not interested in blame. I’m interested in truth with compassion—because when you get real about how others actually perceive you, that’s when the real work can begin.

And maybe someone has told you you’re an asshole.

Maybe more than one person has.

So… now what?

How do you know if they’re just projecting their own stuff onto you—or if you’re actually showing up in a way that’s hurting people?

That’s the gold right there. That’s the kind of feedback no one knows how to give you. But it’s exactly what we explore together. I help you sift through what’s yours, what’s not, and what’s just old patterns playing out. Not so you can beat yourself up—but so you can get clear. Clear on how you’re showing up. Clear on what’s driving your behavior. Clear on what it actually feels like to be in relationship with you.

Because when you know that, then you get to choose how to move forward. And that kind of self-awareness? That’s the beginning of real power.

And listen—when emotions come up in session (and they will), I’m not going to tell you to “calm down” or “don’t worry” or “it’ll be fine.” I’m not here to rush past your anxiety so I can feel more comfortable. If you’re scared or sad or angry or grieving—those are valid emotional experiences. You get to feel them. And I’ll be right there with you while you do.

That goes for your desires, too. Especially your sexual ones.

There is nothing wrong with what you want. Whether you’ve been told your turn-ons are too much, not enough, or just plain weird—bring them here. They belong. You belong. The only question is whether your desires are something you want to act on with clarity, integrity, and consent. And if so? Let’s work with them—not against them.

Once we open the door to that kind of honest reflection, we step into the Relationship Lab—where we begin practicing.

Yes, practicing. Not theorizing. Not analyzing to death. Practicing.

We try on new ways of speaking—more open, more congruent with how you want to show up. We play with tone, body language, softness, strength. We explore how your words actually land in someone else’s body. How do you want people to feel after they’ve spoken to you? Do you want to be remembered as safe? Honest? Inspiring? Grounded?

I help you get there—not by giving you a script, but by helping you feel what it’s like in your body to show up in alignment with who you really are.

That kind of congruence—when your words, your tone, your body, your heart are all on the same page—is powerful. It’s also rare. Most of us have learned to perform in our relationships. To say the thing that will get us love. To edit ourselves just enough to avoid rocking the boat.

But connection isn’t built on performance. It’s built on intimacy.

And intimacy? That’s not always about sex. Intimacy is what you share with someone that you don’t share with anyone else. It’s a level of emotional closeness and trust that can only exist when you’re willing to show your insides—your gooey, messy, beautiful emotional truth—and stay connected in the process.

So no, I’m not going to feed you a bunch of BS about how everyone else is just “too sensitive” or “doesn’t get you.” I’m not here to teach you how to argue better or “win” more conversations. I’m here to help you soften into yourself, speak from your center, and stay with yourself even when things feel tender, uncertain, or scary.

This isn’t about fixing you. You’re not broken.

It’s about remembering how to feel. How to connect. How to be fully yourself while letting others in.

And yes—it's going to bring stuff up. Emotions will rise. That’s not a problem. That’s actually the work. And in our sessions, you get to feel all of it. There is nothing wrong with your feelings. There is nothing wrong with your desires. I will never tell you what you should do or shouldn’t feel. What I will do is walk with you through the discomfort, the truth-telling, and the practice… until you feel what it’s like to be in a secure, meaningful relationship—starting with the one you have with yourself.

This is the lab. This is the work. And this is the love you’ve been waiting to give yourself.